Blog # 11: Ang Guegma

To achieve self-actualization kailangan mong malampasan 'eto according to Abraham Maslow. Pero tingin mo meron ka ba nito?

1. Friendship - check
2. Family - check
3. Sexual Intimacy - not yet

It takes time, sabi nga nila. Maraming mga bagay ang kailangan munang ipriority tulad ng career at opportunities na darating sa'yo.


Now let's take a look to Erik Erikson's Psychosocial development:


Age: Young Adulthood -- 19 to 40 years
Conflict: Intimacy vs. Isolation
Important Event: Love relationships

Stage Six, Young Adulthood: Intimacy Versus Isolation. Individual experiences a need to achieve an essential quality of intimacy (an ability to care about others and to share experiences with them)in his or her life. After establishing a stable identity, a person is prepared to share meaningful love or deep friendship with others. 75% of college-age men and women rank a good marriage and family life as their primary adult goal (Bachman & Johnson, 1979). And yet, marriage or sexual involvement is no guarantee that intimacy will prevail: Many adult relationships remain superficial and unfulfilling. Failure to establish intimacy with others leads to a deep sense of isolation. The person feels alone and uncared for in life. This circumstance often sets the stage for later difficulties.

The need for intimacy - to care and be cared is indeed a need. Remember you cannot give what you cannot have.

I'm still in this part of the stage and I have lot of chances to experience to love and be love. It is just part of waiting for the right person and grabbing the opportunity to love her.

Remember, that you have many time - time for everything and yes, true love waits.